Let’s be clear – time is a scarce resource especially today. If you are a parent you will be surprised how fast your kids are growing. So, even if you are a busy person, you should always find time to connect with your kids. The good news is that there is more than one way to connect with your kids and some of these ways don’t require verbal communication. In this article, we will provide a few tips that will help you connect with your kids without words.
Show your love for your kids
There are so many different ways in which you can show your love to them. From dancing together to their favorite song to framing a picture of your family – your children will definitely feel loved when they notice your efforts.
Being present is the biggest present
It doesn’t really matter whether you are working from 9 to 5 in the office or you are a stay-at-home parent, you should always find time to be around your kids. Being present means more than being physically present. You must be present with your thoughts too. Put away your phone, let the laundry pile grow and be present for a moment - mentally present and see what is right in front of you.
Keep eye contact when they tell you something
Being a good listener is one of the most important things when you are trying to connect with your kids. Let them tell their stories from their day. Listen to what they are saying carefully. Leave your everyday activities aside when they are talking to you. Spending ten minutes listening to them is more effective than buying a gift.
All human beings need physical contact and your kids need physical closeness from you, no matter their age. So, it’s a good idea to take a few minutes to hold hands and snuggle if you want. You will connect on a deeper level and you kids will feel loved.
Massage is an excellent way to relax! So, as an extra bonus to the physical closeness, your kid will feel you will eliminate stress in tension. According to the latest studies, a childhood stress can significantly increase the risk of adult depression.
Smile at them
Smiling at your kids improves attachment and bonding. It also helps your children feel safe and secure. Finally, this non-verbal communication will help you start a verbal conversation.
Blink at them across the table
Blinking is fun and it will make your kids laugh, but it also improves the connection between parents and kids because blinking usually means that you share some secret that the rest of the world doesn’t know about. It makes them feel special.
Sit together quietly under a blanket
Blankets represent safety, comfort, and warmth and if you decide to share this space together with your kid, they will know that you will always be there for them. This is an excellent me-time for both of you.
So, why would someone want to connect with their kids? There is more than one good answer to this question. For example, establishing a good connection with your children can help them develop a strong feeling of belonging which is crucial for any family. In addition, this strong bond will reduce misbehavior. Follow these tips and help your kid build self-esteem, self-confidence and make them happy!